Clients often ask me “am I bad enough for therapy?” My answer – always – is yes. A resounding yes, in fact. And my answer is yes for a number of reasons.
Firstly, I support anyone who is taking steps to make their lives better. To be brave enough to acknowledge that they would like help, and to seek it out. To have the courage to explore the murkiness that can be their inner world. To be vulnerable in front of another person. To persevere, despite it often being very confronting to tear the walls down and have a look at what’s behind them.
Secondly, everybody’s distress is valid. It doesn’t matter why, it doesn’t matter how severe. It doesn’t matter if you can list a thousand examples of why other people might have it tougher than you. It doesn’t matter if you think you should be coping better. If you are feeling pain, confusion, hurt or fear, then you have every right to try to ease those feelings.
Many, many times, I have had people sit across from me and apologise for taking up my time. They worry that their problems are trivial. My response is always this: you have as much reason to be sitting in that chair as any other person, and I am ready to help you, because you are here.
So if you have ever thought about seeing a psychologist, go ahead. You ARE bad enough.